I'm 23 now. 23. 2-3. It's weird. I think what felt super weird is the fact that more so now then when I was 18 or 21 I was told at 23 now I'm really an adult. Sure at 18 you're legally an adult and at 21 you can drink but the newness of these experiences often lead to wild crazy "young adult" stuff. But apparently at 23 you're supposed to be beyond all that now.
What is "all that"? What is being an adult?
To me, in the simplest form being an adult is being aware that there are bills to pay and somehow, you gotta pay them. By yourself.
There are of course, other factors I think are often found in adults that come from years of learning and living with others. Such as:
Thinking about others, or putting someone else before yourself. In any relationship (friend or romantic) it can't be about you all the time. Sometimes you have to do things you don't want to or listen to stories and such you might not find interesting. However, because it is important to your loved one, it's not really a sacrifice because if you really care about them you should ultimately care about what's important to them as well. If you don't, then yes feign interest because they probably do the same for you. It's all about being able to look beyond yourself. You're not the center of the universe, you are one in billions of people and to build relationships, working relationships, there is always a give and take.
Doing the best for you, whether you always enjoy it or not. You may not enjoy work, school, or whatever but if it's helpful to you in the long run, I consider it an adult thing to just suck it up and get it done. I hate taking my car in for oil changes but I know it has to be done, so I make sure it gets done.
I'm sure there is more but what interests me is the many times I am called immature for things I really don't think make me immature. Yes, they are considered "childish aspects" about myself but they don't harm my life or anyone else's so I don't see the harm. Like...
I like to dance. At clubs or bars if there's a dance floor I will be dancing.
A) not only is it an acceptable place to dance so you have no place judging me but
B) a bar/club is a place set up to have some fun in, and I find dancing fun so shove off
However I find my urge to dance bleeds over into walking to work, standing in line at Coldstone, in labs, while cooking, and such. Now it's never so insane that I'm likely to cause injury to someone else or am not paying attention to what is around me. More like a little shake of the hips, some fake tap dancing, or simply just bobbing my head or body. I've been called immature for this. I don't understand that. Why is me having fun and enjoying myself immature? If I'm still being productive and I'm not say, kicking me cat, I don't it's cause to call me immature.
When did this happen?
When did having a personality make someone immature?
Suddenly now that I'm 23 I need to get a "real job" (a nine to five desk job everyday for the rest of my life, no thank you..), look "normal", act "appropriately" ( I STILL have no idea what this means!!), and makes lots of money to buy lots of new stuff to show off to other people to make sure everybody knows how successful I am (and apparently even though NOW I say I don't really want all new stuff, no matter what I WILL want it as soon as a graduate and, oh "get a real job")
^^^This does not sound like an adult to me, if it is, sheesh, adults seem judgmental and boring (and by boring I mean booooorrrrrrrring). Also apparently this all counts as being an adult, however being politically active and participating in democracy isn't included in that list? What the hell?
So whether you like or not as part of my little rant I'm going to list some facts most "adults" will argue with me until the end of time
Facts:
I'm 23
I have blue hair
I can have blue hair and still be an adult
My blue hair doesn't harm you (unless I guess, I stick it in your eye but I wouldn't do that) so you can't be offended
My blue hair does not effect my work ethic *gasp*
My blue hair does not make me lazy (I was lazy since birth duchebags)
My blue hair doesn't even make me an extremest, I'm not always intentionally trying to defy society with weird hair colors. I just feel more like myself with blue hair. or orange hair. or purple hair. or whatever!
I find I am often a lot nicer than blondes and brunettes so don't even give me that argument
Soooo you can pick me out of a crowd, how does this make me immature? So I like to have fun, laugh, and am generally a silly person (it's my personality and honestly I'm sick of apologizing for that). This doesn't make me immature. If I can successfully pay bills and continue to have a quality of life that I am ok with I am an adult.
Oh, and I can think for myself, which I thinks should me a super adult since it seems that most other people let society pummel any individual thought out of their brains.
You say I'm 23, I need to be an adult and grow up.
I say I'm 23, I am an adult and will forever act like myself no matter what that means as time may pass and you just need to deal with it. My way of life makes me happy, end of story. If you're an adult you do what makes you happy but you can't expect that what makes you happy is what makes other people happy.
I'm 23
I have blue hair and I wear a 70's corduroy cap
I like tattoos
I love to dance
I am still an adult.
What is "all that"? What is being an adult?
To me, in the simplest form being an adult is being aware that there are bills to pay and somehow, you gotta pay them. By yourself.
There are of course, other factors I think are often found in adults that come from years of learning and living with others. Such as:
Thinking about others, or putting someone else before yourself. In any relationship (friend or romantic) it can't be about you all the time. Sometimes you have to do things you don't want to or listen to stories and such you might not find interesting. However, because it is important to your loved one, it's not really a sacrifice because if you really care about them you should ultimately care about what's important to them as well. If you don't, then yes feign interest because they probably do the same for you. It's all about being able to look beyond yourself. You're not the center of the universe, you are one in billions of people and to build relationships, working relationships, there is always a give and take.
Doing the best for you, whether you always enjoy it or not. You may not enjoy work, school, or whatever but if it's helpful to you in the long run, I consider it an adult thing to just suck it up and get it done. I hate taking my car in for oil changes but I know it has to be done, so I make sure it gets done.
I'm sure there is more but what interests me is the many times I am called immature for things I really don't think make me immature. Yes, they are considered "childish aspects" about myself but they don't harm my life or anyone else's so I don't see the harm. Like...
I like to dance. At clubs or bars if there's a dance floor I will be dancing.
A) not only is it an acceptable place to dance so you have no place judging me but
B) a bar/club is a place set up to have some fun in, and I find dancing fun so shove off
However I find my urge to dance bleeds over into walking to work, standing in line at Coldstone, in labs, while cooking, and such. Now it's never so insane that I'm likely to cause injury to someone else or am not paying attention to what is around me. More like a little shake of the hips, some fake tap dancing, or simply just bobbing my head or body. I've been called immature for this. I don't understand that. Why is me having fun and enjoying myself immature? If I'm still being productive and I'm not say, kicking me cat, I don't it's cause to call me immature.
When did this happen?
When did having a personality make someone immature?
Suddenly now that I'm 23 I need to get a "real job" (a nine to five desk job everyday for the rest of my life, no thank you..), look "normal", act "appropriately" ( I STILL have no idea what this means!!), and makes lots of money to buy lots of new stuff to show off to other people to make sure everybody knows how successful I am (and apparently even though NOW I say I don't really want all new stuff, no matter what I WILL want it as soon as a graduate and, oh "get a real job")
^^^This does not sound like an adult to me, if it is, sheesh, adults seem judgmental and boring (and by boring I mean booooorrrrrrrring). Also apparently this all counts as being an adult, however being politically active and participating in democracy isn't included in that list? What the hell?
So whether you like or not as part of my little rant I'm going to list some facts most "adults" will argue with me until the end of time
Facts:
I'm 23
I have blue hair
I can have blue hair and still be an adult
My blue hair doesn't harm you (unless I guess, I stick it in your eye but I wouldn't do that) so you can't be offended
My blue hair does not effect my work ethic *gasp*
My blue hair does not make me lazy (I was lazy since birth duchebags)
My blue hair doesn't even make me an extremest, I'm not always intentionally trying to defy society with weird hair colors. I just feel more like myself with blue hair. or orange hair. or purple hair. or whatever!
I find I am often a lot nicer than blondes and brunettes so don't even give me that argument
Soooo you can pick me out of a crowd, how does this make me immature? So I like to have fun, laugh, and am generally a silly person (it's my personality and honestly I'm sick of apologizing for that). This doesn't make me immature. If I can successfully pay bills and continue to have a quality of life that I am ok with I am an adult.
Oh, and I can think for myself, which I thinks should me a super adult since it seems that most other people let society pummel any individual thought out of their brains.
You say I'm 23, I need to be an adult and grow up.
I say I'm 23, I am an adult and will forever act like myself no matter what that means as time may pass and you just need to deal with it. My way of life makes me happy, end of story. If you're an adult you do what makes you happy but you can't expect that what makes you happy is what makes other people happy.
I'm 23
I have blue hair and I wear a 70's corduroy cap
I like tattoos
I love to dance
I am still an adult.
